High-value text messages
Craving conversation.
You send him a note that reads, “I’m craving our conversation.” This message slips into his day, jolting him out of whatever he’s doing. It’s not small talk; you’ve dived right into something substantial, providing a distinct complement to your dynamic.
Adorable but demanding
“Why haven’t you asked me to see the new Blade Runner yet?” This wonderfully demanding message expresses your want to accomplish something with him. It works even better if he had no idea you wanted to see that film, putting the onus on him to invite you out on a date.
Playing Games About When to Text back
Playing games about when to text back can result in missed opportunities. When possible, respond spontaneously to keep the conversation moving forward. Waiting to look busy may cause you to miss an opportunity to connect.
Only Using Text Communication
Obsessive adherence to text communication might wear thin. To provide diversity and keep people interested, use several mediums such as photographs, voice memos, phone calls, and FaceTime. Changing the medium brings new life to the debate.
Being One-Note
Being one-note might lead to predictable talks. Be adaptable in your energy—mix politeness with playfulness, and go from cordial to flirting. To keep the conversation interesting, demonstrate your versatility.
Talking about anything but yourself.
Talking about everything but yourself reduces connection. Please share your stories, opinions, and feelings. Don’t just explain your activities; add a personal touch to show more of who you are.
Being Too Passive.
Being overly passive can lead to ambiguity. Practice gracious impatience by being open about your desires. Don’t hesitate to convey your desires and intentions.
Creating a Deeper Connection
Instead of asking, “Are you just a flirt?” show that you’re more than that by sharing personal stories. By sharing more about yourself, you encourage the other person to do the same, resulting in a stronger bond.
Add a Human Detail.
Add a personal touch to your messages to spark conversation. Instead of a generic response, offer particular facts about your activities, giving the other person something to talk about.
Shorten the timeframe
When finishing a conversation, shorten the timeframe. Instead of the generic “Have a great week,” personalize it to the current situation. For example, “Have a great meeting,” establishes a more personal connection.
Create a shared reference.
Create a shared reference by citing common interests. To break up the chat and add some fun, use GIFs, photos, or voice notes.
The Intrigue Compliment
Begin compliments with intrigue, asking, “Do you know what I like about you?” Create suspense, then provide a specific compliment. It demonstrates generosity, confidence, and draws attention.
The Accelerator Text
Use the accelerator text to keep things going. If conversations lack momentum, gently point out the lack of progress. Encourage the other person to take the initiative and demonstrate investment.
Don’t do all the work.
Avoid doing all the effort during the talk. If someone’s responses are slow, show your gracious impatience by gently challenging them to step up. Maintain equal investment in the interaction.
