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Does your heart beat faster when you see someone special? That’s how love makes you feel. I get it—Love is a magical feeling that can make you happy, excited, and sometimes a little nervous (I’ve been there) It can also be scary to fall in love. You might be concerned about what they think about you or if you know this person as well as you think you do. But remember that to love someone means to be brave enough to let someone into your heart, even after getting your heart broken. Falling in love happens unexpectedly sometimes. It makes…
For the last few weeks, we have been writing about subtle aspects of peaceful relationships. It is now time to describe the five principles for creating peaceful relationships, of which these subtle aspects are a part. These are: The most practical way to learn how to apply these is within your close intimate relationships. Once you have that experience, you will be able to take that out into the community, and we hope that eventually, you will also find ways to practice this in all relationships. We will give a brief description of these principles here, and then cover each…
We all want fulfilling relationships, but often feel like we don’t know how to make them happen. When we are in a relationship, it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day. With work and personal obligations, it’s hard to make time for our partner or spouse. But when we make an effort and find ways to connect with them, they will feel more fulfilled in their relationships. We all want to have fulfilling relationships, but often feel like we don’t know how to make that happen. Consider this, mindful relationships are more fulfilling relationships. When we’re making an effort and connecting…
As I wrote in a recent column here, after ‘doing sex’ in mostly the same way for the past sixty years, I found that my arousal was becoming a lot less predictable. But I’m happy to share with you that, after getting over my initial worry and disappointment, I’m discovering a wonderful new world of connection, love and enjoyment with my new partner. It really has been a blessing in disguise! After a couple of false starts, I realised that for me to feel at ease with the situation, it was very important that my partner and I talked openly…
“Let’s do an experiment,” he thought to himself. “I want an affair, and I’m a man. What if I pretended to be a woman to see what the competition is like??” I (51 and attached) created a female profile on Ashley Madison. My objectives were:a) to see what my own profile looks like to female users andb) to understand what women really have to deal with on AM (Ashley Madison)c) and see what I was up against I did not do this to catfish anyone. I haven’t responded to a single message other than to look at their profile and…
There is substantial psychological research suggesting that many heterosexual men carry significant fears of their partners in their intimate relationships. These fears are manifested in areas such as fears of being controlled and dominated by women, fears of being entrapped by women, and fears of being inadequate with women. Research by Dr. James O’Neil and his colleagues has demonstrated that these fears lie at the heart of what he calls Gender Role Conflict, which is correlated with psychological difficulties such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and higher rates of suicide in men. So, understanding the causes of men’s fears of women has significant implications for both the…
Genesis was her name. I had earth science class with her freshman year, then chemistry senior year. I remember both classes vividly, and for one reason: her. When I first met the brown haired Latina, I instantly took note of her stunning beauty. However, I had never had a serious girlfriend up until that point, so I was scared to make the first move. Fortunately and unfortunately, I had to hear from her friends about her disappointment in my lack of virility. Fortunately because I now knew she liked me for sure, and unfortunately because I had missed an opportunity.…
“Why is this happening?” I thought. I toss and turn in my bed but I can’t sleep. “Why do I have to experience divorce for the second time in my life? I already went through this as a child. Why do I have to go through this again? Worse, why do my children have to know this type of pain? I don’t have to wonder what they will feel. I know much of what they will feel.” My sister calls me. “Colleen,” she says. “A lot of people would stay married. But you’re smarter than this.” I know she’s right.…
Last time, I told you about the best way to approach women without fear or anxiety. The key to having a great conversations was also embedded within that same method. Did you catch it? Basically, the very best way to have incredible conversations with women is also through the same social momentum concept I talked about in the approaching article. It will allow you to express yourself freely without hesitation. It will help you stay in the moment. It will make the conversation more fun. It allows you to do that “just be yourself” thing everyone keeps telling you to do while…
Love is so essential to us, but so little understood. Love is easily confused with feelings and behaviors that are common in close relationships, but aren’t really loving. If we don’t make the distinction, we risk forming impressions of love that make us wary. We end up afraid to give our hearts fully, and reluctant to accept love from others. How sad! The lack of understanding about love also leaves humanity without a guiding star to aspire toward. How can we improve our love-ability when we don’t know what to tune for, and what to tune out in our loving?…