Author: Story Teller

It may sound embarrassing to think about scheduled bedroom time. But the more you think about it, you will get to know the importance of the idea of being a little disciplined in sex is hot. First and foremost, even if both partners agreed that a fixed night of the week would be the night when they were going to be intentionally intimate with each other. When that specific night rolls around and either partner isn’t feeling up for it that has to be respected full stop. No one has a right to anyone else’s body. When we truly love…

Musicians are the alpha males when it comes to dating. Researchers from the University of Brittany (France) wanted to see if males seen as musicians could actually improve men’s game in the dating scene. They placed a man walking down the streets of a medium-sized city in France asking women for their phone numbers. On a sunny summer Saturday afternoon, the man asked 300 young women but there was a twist. Sometimes he’d carry a guitar case, sometimes a sports bag, and sometimes, he was just empty-handed. They found that when the man carried a guitar case 31% of the ladies…

Dating the same type of people feels like karma. You do everything right, yet you find out they have the same toxic pattern as your exes. Each breakup leads us to new discoveries and fresh energy, but not for you. You are stuck in limbo, loving the same type of men who bring you nothing but tears. This is groundhogging not karma. Most time we find ourselves loving the same people because we focus on what we want instead of what we need. Women often go for men who command the room. Those who earn six figures and look pretty.…

Picture it: parks and libraries, bookstores and skyscrapers, cocktails shimmering in starlight. If I’m honest with you, if I’m honest with myself, that’s how I thought I met the love of my life. It was every Nora Ephron romantic comedy turned up to full volume. Harry Connick, Jr., sang me through the streets of the city and whirled me around while flowers bloomed in my heart and hearts danced in my eyes. So, when the pandemic hit and the world shut down, when I found myself separated from what I assumed was the love of my life, and when the…

Facing betrayal in a relationship, everyone deals with it in their own way. There’s no right or wrong in these different approaches, but you must constantly ask yourself one question: “Do things get better for me?” Practice is the only way to test the truth, and it’s the same when facing betrayal. If you can improve, heal, and move forward to a better place, then your way is right for you, even if others disagree. However, if your situation doesn’t improve, or even worsens, then your current approach is definitely wrong and needs adjustment. Every marriage, every couple, every “you…

There was this place I went to for help with my mental illness at one point in my life. It was called Roger’s Behavioral Health. I stayed at the OCD center, where people with said illness lived and were treated. One of the females that stayed there — let’s call her Callie — became quite a good friend of mine during my stay. She helped me work on my plans for when I got out, helped keep me company while I was on the inside, and showed me that good women do exist, no matter how few and far between they may be. Now,…

One of the biggest challenges for men in dating is having to face rejection after rejection. The socially expected male role in dating is to take the initiative, and the socially expected female role is to respond with either acceptance or rejection. He shows blatant interest first. He asks her out. He takes the risks. There are many reasons why our genders roles became this way, including the societal slut-shaming of women who show too much interest (darn that pesky patriarchy and its discouragement of women’s sexual agency). This leads to women rejecting men a lot more than men rejecting…

As we took that long trip across the mountains, he confessed something. For years I had known them as the perfect couple. The successful one. The one that had made it through thick and thin. 15 years going on 16. Stable as ever. Strong as I could ever hope for. And I’d always made a small assumption. It was a classic love story. They met in a small town. Went on a few dates. The only two to show up to a club meeting on their college campus. They are still planning on living the rest of their lives together.…

Having a crush/developing feelings for someone else while you’re already in a relationship can be pretty tricky. It stirs up a whirlwind of emotions in you like for example the feeling of guilt, confusion, and maybe even some self doubt. You might find yourself wondering if your current relationship is healthy and whether these feelings for your new crush are just temporary or meaningful. It’s a feeling that can leave you feeling torn inside, as you grapple with questions about your loyalty to your girlfriend versus the curiosity and excitement brought by this new person. Sounds familiar??? Is it normal…

Ask any woman what she’s honestly looking for in a man and it’s not unlikely that the first thing she’ll say is “tall.” That isn’t so encouraging for short guys like me who never grew past 5’5″, or less than 170 cm. It’s unfortunate that height isn’t something we can naturally “improve” in adulthood. The best we short dudes can do is to improve ourselves in all the other ways we actually can control. Besides, breaking our knees to surgically add a couple inches to our height isn’t exactly a reasonable solution for most of us. The one saving grace…