My grandparents gave each of their grandchildren enough money to buy a house after we graduate from college. We have to complete college on our own. My older brother managed to pay off some debt while still having enough for a 50% down payment and emergency funds.
I was fortunate enough to qualify for both a scholarship and a bursary through my father’s employer. When I graduated, I acquired a tiny house near public transportation so that I could commute by train to work.
Several years later, I met and married my spouse. He met my cousin, Yvonne, at my wedding.
She is gorgeous. I know I am not ugly, but she is stunning. They began an affair roughly three months after their wedding. I found out because they’re both foolish.
I got hurt. But I was also enraged. I wanted to kick him out right away and divorce him.
Instead I waited nearly six more months. A month before she graduated from university, I broke down in front of my grandparents. I informed them that I had just found out about the adultery and was devastated. That my own family would do this to me. I remained with them for several weeks. My husband attempted to contact me, but I did not speak to him. During this time, my grandmother assisted me in hiring a lawyer for my divorce.
My cousin is now basically outcast by the family. My house was a premarital asset, and it was included in our prenup. I offered my ex a month to move out.
My grandparents are traditional regarding marriage and family. They are beyond enraged. They stated they couldn’t change what she done, but they could express their unhappiness. They handed me her money.
She took out college loans since she knew she could repay them. She also chose a degree that was not directly related to STEM, therefore she will not be earning a high wage upon graduation.
My ex begs me to let him stay because he loves me. I told him that if he loved me, he would not sleep with other women. I know he does not. He did the math and discovered how fucked he is.
My aunt and uncle are furious with me for cheating their baby out of so much money. I’d like to be clear here. I never intended to take her money. I just asked our grandparents not to give it to her. Getting it was just icing on the cake.
Right now, the family is divided, but mainly on my side. They don’t want to openly argue with my grandparents.
Everything is over. The divorce will take a little longer, but my money is in my retirement account. My ex has moved out of my place. My cousin can go screw herself.
I feel horrible for not confronting them right away and for involving my grandparents. My ex inquired how I knew. I informed the moron that all of his texts were visible on our tablet before he deleted them. I had taken screenshots of everything.
So I’m wondering whether I went too far, and if that makes me the sole asshole in this situation.
